I don’t need ‘wife’ tag to prove my love for Bhupen: Kalpana
February 20, 2009 – 3:03 pmKalpana Lajmi was just 17 when she fell in love with Bhupen Hazarika who was 45 at that time. When the music maestro turned 80, he offered to marry her, but Lajmi, who has been living with him
for the past 38 years now, turned down the offer saying the ‘wife’ tag was unnecessary to their relationship. Speaking to IANS, lajmi said, “Bhupso” (Lajmi, endearingly addresses Hazarika as Bhupso) did offer to marry me two years ago, but I said no,” adding that for her the relationship, the trust and the respect that they shared with each other were more important than marriage. Lajmi is best known for her woman-oriented films like “Rudaali”, “Daman”, “Ek Pal“, “Chingaari” and “Darmiyaan”. Lajmi recalled that she first met Bupen Hazarika through her uncle. “When I saw this frail, skinny man wearing a striped orange shirt, I was charmed,” Lajmi said as she bared her soul about her relationship with Hazarika, now 82. A year later, Lajmi was able to enter both - Hazarika’s heart and home.”We have been living together for the past 38 years now, although my mother never accepted the relationship, nor did Bhupso’s family members, barring Manisha (Bhupen’s younger brother Jayanta’s wife). “Just about a couple of months back my mother asked me to get married to Bhupso. This is completely Indian mentality you know,” she said.
Lajmi says they were not possessive about each other. Bhupso had a lot of beautiful women in his life during the last 38 years. I was also in love for some time with another man.” Talking about Hazarika’s family, she said: “His former wife Priyam keeps calling him on phone and visited our home in Mumbai. She now stays in Canada and Bhupso’s son Tej is settled in the US.”The couple generally stays in Mumbai. But for the past three weeks Hazarika, the last of India’s most well-known balladeers, is in Guwahati with his partner. Hazarika has produced, directed, composed and sang for the Asomiya language films like “Era Batar Sur”(1956), “Shakuntala” (1960), “Pratitdhwani” (1964) and “Lotighoti” (1967). So was Lajmi able to make a difference in Hazarika’s life and career? “I think I’m 95 percent responsible for Bhupso’s career flight. He was an intoxicant and I helped him get rid of that habit.” Lajmi says Hazarika is an introvert and a short-tempered man. “We have huge fights as he is a very angry person, besides being emotional and insular,” she said. The 82-year old legend is not keeping well, and Lajmi devotes most of her time looking after the love of her life.”My career has suffered for the last three years as Bhupso is not keeping well and I have to nurse him and do everything for him,” Lajmi said. “I love Bhupen Hazarika.” (IANS)
39 Responses to “I don’t need ‘wife’ tag to prove my love for Bhupen: Kalpana”
The living legend Bhuupen da, who has made all assamese people proud. Not only he contributed immensely to the world of music, but also brought assamese folk music to the national level. Salute yo Bhupen da and wish you a long
By Nibir on May 30, 2009
right companion in the needy time is better than a socially certified wife
By gouri sankar dhekial phukan on Dec 5, 2010
right companion in the rt. time is the best , than the socially certified wife
By gouri sankar dhekial phukan on Dec 5, 2010
this is called a real love. thankx Lajmi ji. You have supported to our son Dr. Bhupen hazarika
By prasanta dutta on Aug 19, 2011
BhupenDa is the GOLDEN voice of Assam with a heart like BRAHMAPUTRA. Long live Bhupenda.
By Manmath Chakravorty on Sep 8, 2011
love and serve need no tag
we are proud of kalpanamam
By prabin Bora on Sep 9, 2011
I see good inside kalpana lajmi Ji.
By Premsai on Nov 4, 2011
i salute lajmijee for the care she has taken. WE have lost our most famous son the void no one can fill. ” moi jetia a jibon nor maya ari gusi jam”
By mukul on Nov 5, 2011
”moi ati jaja bor” the end of an era
By lindalee on Nov 5, 2011
”akakhi gonga bisaronoi” buku hom hom kore mur ai” you live for ever.
By kathar on Nov 5, 2011
Thanks Lajmi ji.
By Himangshu Patgiri on Nov 6, 2011
big loose to our new generation, we miss u bhupenda
By ratul,maibella on Nov 6, 2011
Lajmi ji, u r true lover.. We u bhupen da
By Techi tat on Nov 6, 2011
Lajmi ji, u r true lover.. We mis u bhupen da
By Techi tat on Nov 6, 2011
people of assam give him the last tribute and proove in the world that assamese has a spirit .
By alakesh pujari on Nov 7, 2011
Bhupen Da will never die. His physical appearance may be vanished from our sights for good but his songs, his works, his lyrics, poems will be always with us for long as long as the Assamese Community exits.
By Jayanta Kumar Bardalai, Dibrugarh on Nov 8, 2011
Salute to u mam.. i m really pleased
:)..god bless u 
By Pinakshi Dutta on Nov 8, 2011
Thanx a lot lajmi ji for taking care of our beloved Bhupen Da. We can’t forget him ever.. He will always be living in our heart.. Thanx again lajmi ji.
By Xia on Nov 8, 2011
Kalpana is a true lover and a brave hearted soul. What Dr. Hazarika deserved from his wife and never got it in reality was given to him in abundance by Kalpana Lajmi.Love was the only thing important to Kalpana and, therefore, she did not care about formally marrying the music maestro.
By Dilip Kumar Das on Nov 8, 2011
…there will always be an emotional bond for Dr. Hazarika’s music but in my own opinion this has been increased manifold by Kalpana Lajmi’s tireless efforts only. She has been the only person to keep the brand(if i may be excused in calling so)of the legend alive. Dr. Hazarika will forever live on in our soul…
By Reeturaj on Nov 9, 2011
I am not a good person to comment anything about our God Dr. Bhupen Hazarika….But GOD NEVER DIES…BHUPEN DA apuni Amor..
Kalpana Ji I really salute you..
By KAPIL DAS on Nov 9, 2011
Bhupen hajarika cant die.He is in our heart.
By sunil A gohain on Nov 9, 2011
I personally salute to Kalpana Lajmiji.She is a symbol of sacrifice. Thank you mam, you had took care to our beloved Bhupenda for so many long time. You have true lovely & brave hearted soul.May GOD bless you……
By tularam gogoi on Nov 9, 2011
BHUPEN DA WILL LIVE IN OUR HEART,
BHUPEN DA WILL NOT LEAVE OUR HEART.
By Homeswar Pathak on Nov 9, 2011
Thanks Lajmi Ji for taking care of our beloved Bhupenda…We all Assam people are thankful to you for showing a true symbol of love and sacrifice…
..Bhupenda will always remain in our hearts..
By chand on Nov 9, 2011
Thanx Kalpanaji.
By Pabitra Baruah on Nov 10, 2011
thnks a lot lajmiji to care our legend bhupenda
By mr.kumud boruah on Nov 10, 2011
kalpana ji aap ki jarurat hai hamei…
By abani baruah on Nov 10, 2011
aap ki hame jarurat hai kalpana ji…..thnx
By abani baruah on Nov 10, 2011
Thanks Kalpana Lajmi, Bhupenda was world famus person, its proved by Kalpana Lajmi to introduce him.
By Ashok on Nov 10, 2011
I was moved by the Feb 2009 write up by Ms Kalpana Lajmi on her relationship with Bhupen Hazarika.I admire her for all that she had done for her love. Love indeed needs no labeling.
By Achintya Kumar Sinha on Nov 11, 2011
I m touched with your sharing,God is there he’ll look after you the way u did to him i can understand your love and feeling towards him.wish i could help you at age.You are lucky you have spend some part of your life with him.Love cannot be seen with eyes,but with heart…
By Ronnie on Nov 12, 2011
Salute to you ma’m… Your love and care for our ‘hiyar amothu’will be written in history…
By Lina Saikia on Nov 12, 2011
Thnx a lot kalpana mam.we love u bhupen da.”akakhi ganga bisora nai bisaru moromr mat akhar”
By Sangeeta medhi on Nov 13, 2011
Kalpana had secrefied a lot for our great music legend ‘Bhupenda’ and facilitated ‘Bhupenda’ to become a part of Bollywood filmdom . So, Assam and North East people should falicitate this great lady. Another suggestion: Now, Kalpana should make a complete film on ‘Dr.Bhupen Hazarika’ focussing his true life and personality and not just a documentary film.
By Kamal Dutta on Nov 14, 2011
Lajmi ji,one day u told that Bhupen da is your soul……….
Yes. Bhupen da is your soul and You r the blood of Bhupen da.
By Pankaj Kalita on Nov 15, 2011
Kalpanaji is a role model for all of us…who has dedicated her life for our beloved Bhupenda. A true lover, friend…………….!!
By Shyam Kanu on Nov 16, 2011
i am a south indian admirer of bhupen the multifaceted personality for his cultural attainment and committment for uplifting the downtrodden. however i felt sorry when in his last days he deviated to the right and changing political tack. this tarnished his image , no doubt his contribution to literature, theatre, films,music will be ever remembered,U.S.VENKATARAMAN.ARTIST-WRITER
By u.s.venkataraman on Nov 21, 2011
love does nt need any tag……..it just happens
By Nabanit Hazarika on Nov 22, 2011